Day 1

This blog is my attempt to get back to myself.  Somewhere along the way I got lost.  There is too much crazy busy chaos in my life and I somehow lost me.  Not sure I'd recognize myself at this point even if I did show up. Let's see, it's been three years in the desert so far.  What have I gained and lost these 3 years?  Maybe it's time for an inventory... maybe it's time to stop blindly moving through life pretending that nothing matters, that I am tough and can handle anything and that nothing hurts.  That is obviously not working.  I am so wounded right now, I am gushing blood.  So now for that inventory, a place to start:

Gains:
1. Friends
2. Perspective
3. Diversity
4. Foster children
5. An even more negative view of the world

Losses:
1. Foster children
2. Friends from AL
3. Any connection to myself and my own growth
4. Spirituality
5.

I will add to these lists as things come to me.  They aren't flowing right now.  My goals in taking this journey are as follows:
1. to reconnect with myself and move further along with my healing
2. to try to find ways to be more positive and stop dwelling on the negative
3. to find ways to manage my extreme loneliness and tendency towards despair
4. to then be able to move forward with my life and meet career and relationship goals
5. to stop sabatoging myself






I'll probably add to this list along the way as well as I begin to figure out what it is that I do want.  It's all gotten shuffled around and misplaced, but I know it is still here somewhere... I need to make time to search, to meditate and think on what it is I really want from life.  It may be late, and there's nothing I can do about that, but all is not lost... The only thing that is holding me back is me and my very limited view of the world, of myself and of life.  There are things I can't control here and those things need to be acknowledged with all the kicking and screaming I want to give them, but the ultimate answer is that I can't control them.  It is a waste of my time and energy to try or to lament the fact that I can't control them.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...I cannot change the past, I cannot change other people, I cannot change the course of the wind, I cannot change the rules...

The courage to change the things I can.... I can change me: my attitudes, thoughts, actions and beliefs.

And the wisdom to know the difference... Whoa, this is the kicker!

I think the way to begin this process is to take a long hard look at my thoughts and my thought processes. To call out my negative thinking and question it.  To figure out what attitudes are holding me back and call attention to them, examine them and find the truth, if any, in them. This may be a painful thing, but it must be done, for I am miserable the way I am now.